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Originally Posted by sunrise
She is a totally different person in her sleep! She's really nice and not hostile or angry at all. One time she even said to me, while in this state, "Mommy, I love you," and gave me a hug.  So does that mean that her anger/hostility during waking hours is all an act--a conscious masking of who she is? |
Unconscious masking? Conscious of doing it, but not understanding why?
When your daughter begins an attack on you, and you see an attack about to take place, you say to yourself, oh oh, attack coming! Defenses up! I'd better attack first, because if I don't, I may be overwhelmed!
But what if you said to yourself, wait a minute! This person is attacking because she is
afraid! What if you actually
saw that? You would not have to try to defend yourself with your sharp claws (or tongue) or long fangs, or with your tough skin -- things that you do not have. You would be armored with
knowledge, with understanding. You could afford to react more slowly, not having to avoid imminent overwhelming. Think, watch, reflect...