Can you try to separate T out from the decision you need to make, at least for a bit? Look inside and see if you want to attend this funeral, if you need to do it, if your presence will be meaningful to others there, even if not to you, etc. There could be many reasons you want to go and many to not go. Going to funerals is one way to honor the dead. If you were close to this person, or had a lot of respect or admiration for him/her, want to show honor or pay tribute, then those are good reasons to go. If your presence will somehow create a scene or anger or disturb others (there is some awful feud going on or something like that), then consider carefully. If you want to honor the dead but can't stand others who will be there, you can always attend the funeral and pay your respects, but leave quickly after the service and skip the social/eating part. If you can't make this decision without your therapist, then maybe a call would be helpful. But if you are only calling him because you are afraid he will be angry if you don't, I'm not sure that's a good reason to call!

At your session next week, it could be interesting to explore with your T why you thought he would be angry at you for making a decision on your own.

Good luck with your decision, and I'm sorry for the death in your family.