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Where to begin?
If my post goes random at some points, I'm sorry. I'm still collecting my thoughts on my marriege.
My husband and I have been together going on 10 years.
Just resently, since I started my university studies, it dawned on me that my husband has been emotionally abusing me for 10 years. Well I can't say all of our relationship has been emotionally bad.
For over a year now, I have been debating on leaving him. I'm to stubbern headed to give up on him thou. The old fashioned death due you part keeping on running in my head..grr!
In Dec I started my university studies and asked him for some input..I should of known better then to ask him. He never gives it. I know I'm not perfect and have my own personal problems and have been dealing with my problems all my life.
I told him that we need marriege counseling and he agreed to go. But yet he has no input to give the counselor? In one of the meetings alone with the counselor I told her ALL the problems we have going on. She told me I'm being emotionally abused. It finally hit me! I then proclaimed to my husband that if things don't change I need to live. And that I'm taking emotionally abused classes. As you can imagine..poo hit the fan.
At first he told me he was joking about a lot of the things he was saying to me. Two days later he texts me, "I cried today, after I had time to think about it. I became my father! I'm so sorry. Can you ask to see if they have classes for males that emotionally abuse?"
Now I'm stuck in a bit of a position. 10 years and he wants to change? How long should I give him? How long do I wait to see some kind of change?
What to do?
Sorry for the long post!
Mystical Moon
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