Well I think you wife is a little out of order she accepts it when it suits her and then changes her mind after having a child ? Hmmm not on in my opionion, you was honest with her and she changed the deal half way through.

As for children heck mine have to cope with my mental illness and so do many others ! Parents in wheelchairs parents who are blind etc it makes no difference to them, yours is no different either its just a part of you and they will love you just the same.

IMHO.