Hi i am new here and did try and post a long long long post but it didnt work? so in short..... i found my boyfriend on a dating site, in fact my friend saw him on a dating site! I confronted him and he was so blase... he said it was out of curiousity... is that possible?? I mean, my gut says he is moving on in his head, but i can't let go of him and want to believe him.
a problem to add in the mix is that i am 39 and he is 30... he lives in Belgium and I live in the UK. I have secured a good job in Belgium and was preparing to move there... should i go or cut and run? i really dont trust my judgement at the moment... i am naturally suspicious and distrustful... but this seems to have compounded it.
problem is, I love him.

any advice much appreciated.