A situation occurred where she said something that wigged me out a bit. I got confused about how to intrepret the exchange and slipped into my distant, unflappable mode and when I couldn't clear up my confusion, I withdrew. I should have just taken a moment to check in with myself and the discussed my confusion with my friend. But I didn't want to get myself in a situation where I showed my confusion or risked hurting my friends feelings.

I think a lot of my negative perceptions come from my H. She seem to hurt him for some reason. When I have share little glimpses of her to him...he seems negatively affected, which then makes me wish I hadn't gone there.