It's not that he won't touch you - he will when you initiate. I'm somewhat like that too. There's a lot of baggage that goes along with why I do this. First, I live in what I guess we'd call a sexless marriage. Once a year is about it now. Mid-40s, two great kids, etc. However, the issue I have is I respect that my wife had been raped in college a long time ago and don't want to pressure her for my own personal needs. This is despite marriage being something that is "nurtured" by closeness and intimacy - we are sort-of winding down in this area. Never really were too much into it anyway.

Why would a guy wait for the woman to initiate? It's not her fault. Seriously. He may have a hang-up that hasn't come up yet. Why not go to a therapist to work things out? Mediation can really help delve into deeper situations that just don't come up over a cup of tea between the two of you. Or - how about a sex therapist? They exist and it would definitely be a good thing. However, you mentioned it's your current boyfriend, not husband. He may have memories of another woman in his life that he hasn't let go of yet, maybe a childhood issue or some other hang-up.

For me. I love sex a lot. And you may say "but only once a year". Yes, that is true. My wife and I never had much of an interesting sex life. There is far more to sex than touching and intimate contact. There are hours of talking, feeling out each other's souls, touching each other's brains in terms of chatting about things you love to do together, life experiences, life goals, etc. I look at sex/intimacy like this. Either you're on the same page and jumping in bed at the same time - or there's an issue that needs to be dealt with. Too tired from work? Ask if he's so willing to put out such a physical effort at work - why not take it a bit easy on the job and save some up for you - the important one in his life.

Are you young? Does he have any other friends or co-workers who are chatting him up about his life? Maybe talking about someone they think he should meet? Maybe he's just going through growing pains, peer pressures, other family issues, etc. Talk it out and let him know nicely what you want. If you nag it out of him, he'll not want to do it. Women who nag are just trying to convey their needs but it tends to really irritate men (at least in my opinion). if a woman is yelling at me "hey, you never touch me .... come on!" - this would be a big turn off for me. What I want is someone who is at the same level intellectually and physically. If you have a big difference in life history (he's a taxi driver, you're a medical studen, he's raised on a farm, you've live in cities all your life) - then you may have other incompatibilities that can also get in the way.

Hope I didn't ramble too much. Therapy is probably the easiest way to handle things. Don't be a "victim", however. State what you want - and say it's important. If he's not into giving you what you need in life - you have to decide who you need to be with "for you". Unless he's the man you want to be with the rest of your life (or the next few months) - then you have to own your own future and where you want to go with it.