Gosh, you have a lot to think about. As an adopted child, myself, I feel that you have more options than you can imagine. Everything you do, you should do so for the sake of the child. Can you give this child 1 day of your life? 1 year? 20 years? Can you arrange for her well-being for the next 20 years? Pay for or help with college? Deal with everything that comes along? Take days off work to be with her when she's sick? Give up time for yourself and give it all to take care of your daughter?

Lots of questions and no real answers.

I was given up for adoption as a baby by parents who apparently had lots of kids already. No room in the inn, as they say, so I was adopted by parents who couldn't have their own kids. Things worked out ok for me and my real parents knew they did the right thing. I have never tried to contact them but I bet it was a hard decision for them (even though they already had numerous kids already).

The one question you have to ask yourself is - are you the best person to raise her out of all the available options? The most important person in this relationship is her - - no matter how much you want her to be with you. I'm not really trying to be hard on you here - but this is the thinking a judge will go through if you are trying to get custody.