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dear d,
my answer to your initial question is no. it is not a child's fault if they ask for an inappropriate thing and the parent gives it to them. you did not really know what you were asking for because you were a child. your dad knew about sex and married intimacy and should have said no - i'm sorry my dear, but dads and daughters can't kiss like grown ups, it doesn't work that way. dads can kiss daughters and i love you and here is how i kiss you as your dad - kiss, hug, now lets go read a book or swing on your swing outside. a healthy parent gives short answers appropriate to the child's age and then distracts them with another fun activity.
because you still live at home i can see why you would want to be careful how you handled these memories you have. until you can afford to support yourself you do not want to get into a situation that can cause huge tension or destructive problems and awkwardness in the home. on some level though, you are bothered by your memories and will need to resolve them somehow. like you mentioned maybe you can call some of the numbers given to you and speak confidentially with someone who is trained to help and will not demand you do something like confront your father. - i do not mean to suggest that your T or pDoc would demand you do something you do not wish to do. i hope you can find a way to lay the past to rest and get it out of the way of your life now. all the best!
leslie and her pixie chicks
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