I don't want to raise the issue with my friend because I don't want her to know I was confused about something that would not likely be confusing to most people. Also, the topic is not within my normal comfort zone so... I'm not going there, unless it comes up again. In my case my T was just making the comment as a way of highlighting on of my behavior patterns...not seeking direct clarification when confused by social clues so that my doubt doesn't continue to fester. During the same discussion I mentioned that I had seen the friend but once since the incident. My T also made the comment... Hmmm, I wonder if that is because you are kind of avoiding her. Which... I of course replied ... NO, that's not it... but in reflection...maybe I was avoiding her until I resolved the situation in my mind. Another one of those unconscious patterns that move you away from acting in line with your authentic want. For me, I don't want this incident to affect my friendship... but my behavior pattern of wanting to navigate clear of conflict and uncomfortable discussions was making it more likely to create problems. BTW, I did raise the issue indirectly and get the clarification I needed from my friend and... "its all good" between us. My T knows how to get her point across without telling me what to do. I like that, I'll keep her for a few more sessions.