It makes sense to me that you don't understand the change in her behavior. She went from on to off. T needs to give you an explanation and not an "I have my reasons" response. It would be easier to understand if she said something that indicates she does not want to overstep her boundaries as a therapist or that she wants you to feel good about being able to depend on yourself instead of her.

I have been in therapy for awhile too and have seen my T pull back. I have never had the luxury of being able to email and he has never called in between sessions to check on me despite some SI behavior too. While I wish my T would allow more contact in between sessions, I know that is just one more thing that will have to come to an end.

Have you ever discussed termination with your T? I suspect that she thinks you might because she thinks it would be easier for you to get mad and leave and not come back. You alluded to not going back in your post because she let you down. I hope that you will go back and ask her to give you details on why she has pulled away from you and what she wanted you to take away from it. It is never a good idea to end therapy on a bad note so get the answers that you need or you will have difficulty moving on.

I think that a good time to leave therapy is when we can do it without missing our Ts too much. Some people have posted on the board about missing their T after termination but not leaving with a broken heart. Your heart is aching.