I'm new to this site and I'm not sure what drew me to it but I have been through a lot lately. My wife who I have known for 5 years and have been married to for 6 months has been cheating on me with one of my work friends. I found this out on December 23rd, 2008. I work in a high school with this guy with whom she cheated on me with. I also coached with this person and we would frequently go out to dinner or go over their house. My wife is 26 and this guy is 45...married...and has 3 kids. What is worse is that one of his kids is in her class as she is a 5th grade teacher in the same district. One would figure that there were problems in our marriage but there wasn't at all. She can't even give me an answer as to why she did this. I've been stabbed in the back and stabbed in the heart all at the same time. In "normal" circumstances with people and their personal lives, work can become an escape, but instead for me, is a living hell. I can't go anywhere without a reminder of what has happened to me. I did nothing but shower her with love and my wife and friend are completely contrite and obviously sorry for what has happened. But it doesn't change anything. This was also going on for 6 months so when you do the math....it was going on right even before we were married. Her parents, friends, co-workers etc. are all shocked and on my side. We were the perfect couple....everyone looked at us that way. Now, it is a living nightmare and one in which not only my personal life is affected but also my professional career. I'm just so lost right now. It's been one month since I've figured this all out and I guess I'm doing as ok as I can be for now, but it still hurts. I am just at a loss for how unbelievable the situation is. Anyway, I just wanted to introduce my situation and I'm not even sure where I belong in terms of the categories. Depression, grief, PTSD, etc. I just don't know. I couldn't write a worst script for a story if I tried. But it's my life right now and it's a reality. Any support is appreciated. Thanks...