I am sorry you are still living with your step dad - and really hope you get off to college so you can be away from him - I think maybe your mumis afraid of what you are doing and that can make people not think properly and try to use anger to deal with things rather than reason - you say your mum is a T - I dont think she is dealing with this as a T - she thinks that groudning you and these other things will make you stop because she thinks they stopped before when she did this - she is trying what she thinks works - somtimes the closer you are to a problem - the harder it is to see it. (not saying you are a problem just saying she cant see whats happening because she is too close to it)

The attention seeking thing - my sister said that when I told her what I had done - it really hurt - I am sorry your mum said that to you - I didnt do it to seek attention I did it to let the pain out - it doesnt though does it - it distracts but the pain is still there -seeing a good T has helped me - is there a school T you can see? or can you sit down with your mother and really talk to her? take care P7