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Originally Posted by sittingatwatersedge
no, I guess I'm just lame. 
After I started T I heard from my older sister that there was a lot of violence & many kinds of abuse going on in our house until I was about 4 or 5. But since I have no memories except one (won't mention it for potential triggering) how can T and I "explore" them. that's the thing - if it happened before you had words to record it with - pre-verbally - you can't tell the story. And telling the story, as I am learning, is essential to treatment of trauma.
BTW thanks very much for the link to the Alice Miller site, there is a lot of good reading there. |
Your welcome for the Alice Miller stuff. It's REALLY a good website. I know it made me feel a hell of a lot more sane when I read some of her books (she's a German speaker but they've been translated into English; that's why she isn't as well known in English speaking countries--German language speaker only).
Why would you be lame? Your not. I was just probing you to see if you had discussed anything like this with your T yet because I suspected you hadn't but I wanted to make sure.
You do have some memories, and that's where you begin. You start on the edges and work your way in. NEVER go too fast. Now that you are old enough, you can start to match feelings from your pre-verbal stage with your pre-verbal experiences.
In my case, and I suspect a lot of others who were abused too---my abusers (and those complicit in covering it up and turning a blind eye--grr) would mix the bad in with the good. They'd do something good for me and then turn right around and become abusive. That makes memories from childhood years sometimes difficult as they are muddled.
Do you like your T? Is he/she trustworthy so far?
