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Originally Posted by sittingatwatersedge
no, I guess I'm just lame. 
After I started T I heard from my older sister that there was a lot of violence & many kinds of abuse going on in our house until I was about 4 or 5. But since I have no memories except one (won't mention it for potential triggering) how can T and I "explore" them. that's the thing - if it happened before you had words to record it with - pre-verbally - you can't tell the story. And telling the story, as I am learning, is essential to treatment of trauma.
BTW thanks very much for the link to the Alice Miller site, there is a lot of good reading there. |
I forgot to say that Alice Miller herself expresses a lot of her feelings in her paintings and artwork. That's one place you can start too, even if you can only draw stick figures!
It's worth noting that language is not the only way to express things. In therapy with children who do not yet have a vocabulary, therapy takes the form of play, art, and music. Something to think about...
PS: It is the silence around the abuse that not only allows it to perpetuate, but also to fester in the minds, hearts, and lives of those who were abused... there is a great deal of shame around abuse still in our society; if shame was dealt with properly I suspect we would find a great deal many more people were abused than originally thought.
Do not feel defective over things you had no choice over! You are not alone!