I agree. I think people like you and I had a high sex drive when we "flew the nest" away from home. I had a mom who raised me with limited affection - sure, there was a lot of caring mom stuff, but little in the way of loving affection, closeness and teaching about life. It was more like "you wouldn't want to do that...", "why should I support your college funds if you're just going to go out with girls". that kind of thing. So, yes, I had a high sex drive from that. But it wasn't an affectionate drive - more of a physical drive. I don't think it would be the same as if I/we were raised by affectionate families with a lot of "I love you, son", "I really think you're doing great", hugs, affection, talking about life and all that. That would lead to more personal growth such that intimacy was more important than sex.

You can be sexually addicted and not be very good with intimacy. so, I'm just trying to show the difference. I look at it as:

intimacy is freedom of expression and connected souls. sexuality is freedom of sharing your physical needs.