wow.. This really helped me a lot.. I am nineteen, female, married for 6 months.

anyway.. with my husband, he's always been the one to initiate sex.. i think the only times I've initiated I kind of made a joke of it by like goofing around and stuff. I like having sex, but I'm a little afraid of it.. Maybe this is the case with your bf/husband (sorry, i dont remember after reading all the posts lol). I was raised Catholic.. and not that I am very religious myself, but my family has always tried to tell me that sex is sort of a bad thing. It may not just be the religion, but my family is very conservative I guess about the subject. I never had a sex talk with my mom. I had to figure it out on my own. And my family is very judgemental when it comes to sex.. like if someone has sex outside of marriage (not adultery), then they have less respect for them. Ive never seen my parents kiss or be affectionate.

So I have been taught that sex is bad.

I have only been with my husband.. so this is all kind of new to me. I don't know my body and I am afraid. I believe that most people that come from my type of background have the same problems, though usually women.

Your bf/husband might just not be comfortable with his sexuality. He may be afraid, like I am. Even though he enjoys it, he's scared of initiating it or being obvious that he likes it. Because even though you may not judge him--he might judge himself, like I do.
He is probably insecure. I have low self esteem and I feel fat so it's hard for me to be naked, especially in the light. Maybe he has confidence issues.

Just talk to him. But don't be judgemental about it because he will feel threatened and may not want to be honest with you. I still have to have this talk with my husband.
He's been acting weird lately and this hadn't crossed my mind, that maybe he feels like you do.. unappreciated and unattractive since I don't initiate sex.
Thanks! =D

Good luck and sorry for the looooooooooong post haha.