Being a young military wife is very difficult. Hubby and I married when I was 17 and he was 19. He was in the navy for 7 years. We had the added stress of having children right away and working opposite shifts to keep day care costs down.

It sounds like you're dealing with a lot of issues. Have you thought of seeking a councelor? The things your husband is doing are perfectly normal, but you are more sensitive to them because of your lack of self esteem. A theripist will not only help you to be more comfortable with yourself and your sexuality, but with communication issues. There is a difference between listening and hearing.

The brain is the most important sexual organ. Your wish that he should only be looking at you is not only unrealistic, it's unnatural. The man is married not dead. Are you telling me that you don't see Usher and think "he's hot!"

For snuggling, we initiated commercial time as snuggle time years ago. When we're watching something on TV together, commercial time is our snuggle time. You don't have to wait for him to initiate cuddling. Have you let him know that you need more of it?