the reason I asked for advice is for people who have tons of more experience then I to tell me what they think I should do. I have agreed to let everything in the past and move forward. I am not bringing stuff from the past into our relationship she has been more caring and loving with me since I have given her all the space I can.

It hurts me internally to know that when we have intercourse I am the only one to get to the finish line and she doesnt. She says she is not in the mood. She has in the past gotten there but for the most part she doesnt and it turns me off because it makes me feel that she doesnt love me.

I understand sometimes the mood varies and we can do it but its the mayority of the time she is not in the mood and she is only 40 years old.She had a daugher dont know if makes a difference. I also last long and not a superman.

Any suggestions????