Corky, I found it on a trauma site. Decided to post it because so many of us here suffer from traumatic experiences.

IMO, those three statements don't contradict.

You have the right to ask for an explanation of something you don't understand. You just exercised that right with me.

When you DO understand, you have the right to disagree with a statement made by someone else.

You have a right to your feelings, whatever they are, and you have a right to say what your feelings are. You do NOT have to give reasons for them or try to explain why you have them. The way I understand the last part, is you don't have to take action against someone else to prove thatyou feel what you feel.

Corky, while I was in therapy I learned a couple of things about feelings. 1) Feelings aren't good or bad. They just are. It's what you do with those feelings that matters; like hitting someone because you're mad. That's not right.

2) Feelings are not facts. Just because you feel a certain way about something doesn't make it true. You need to stop and think about it and then decide if you need to do something about that feeling. You have a right to your feelings and you can talk about them, just don't act out on them, act ON them; two different things.

Is that any clearer? I hope so.