Thanks, Bebop, and all of you, for your kind responses.
I'm trying to monitor my own response to all of this, and not feel irrational.
I did finally take a nap today, after wallowing in the gamut of emotions, mostly anger at my daughter. I'm not sure this anger is justified, or that I'm not reacting in a manner similar to that of my own mother, who held such control over me all my adult life. I know I can't allow myself to behave this way. I've been internalizing all of this to the the point of making myself feel sick.
The fact is: Turkmenistan is a backward country, with little to no services which we in the US are accustomed to. Health care, especially for the twins, is a concern for me, but also safety. The US Embassy in Turkmenistan states that it is a place, because of its strategic location between Iran and Afghanistan, where westerners, especially Americans, could be targets of terrorism, even schools.
This is all out of my control. I'm just going to have to put this all aside and allow my daughter and her family to experience it, and learn from it. Hopefully, it will be okay.

Edit: The other thing I have to add here is that I need to GET A LIFE! Though I don't live vicariously thru my daughter and her family, I do take comfort that they are only 3 hours away from me now. The inlaws, her husband's parents, are much more involved with the twins than I am, and I suspect they are having a fit right now. I don't do much outside of going to work and coming home to veg. Must find some other outlets.

Patty