I think the worst part about this situation is that this didn't happen because of something missing in our marriage or because the other guy was "better". This is definitely not continuing since it pretty much shook them both up. This guy is married with 3 kids who are all in the same school district and one of them is a student in my wife's classroom. My wife cannot even give me a reason as to why she did it and is disgusted with herself. She knows she ruined her life. I'm obviously not naive enough to realize that her issues are far more profound then doing something just for kicks. This is deep seeded abuse for her....something definitely happened in her childhood. In the following weeks after this happened, I found out that she has done this before (not as bad, but has a pattern of sleeping with people she isn't supposed to be behind people's backs). What I've struggled with is the fact that I know she didn't do this to hurt me and wasn't thinking straight, but she still knew right from wrong. And I had to ask myself, "At what cost do I have self-respect and dignity for myself in this matter?" I questioned whether or not I can help her through this. What gave me my answer was the fact that this was going on a month before we even got married. So when I sat there and thought to myself, "well I did take a vow that said through sickness and health and this is definitely a sickness" I then also said to myself, "but she also took a vow to be faithful and she voided that vow and all other vows that come with it." I am young and I have many people who support me and I know that if I choose to live my life with her it will be one full of fear, distrust, anger and sadness. I know that once I get past the hurt and pain of this, I know my life will be much better without her in my life. Again, I just still can't believe this happened to me. Just imagine in your head the perfect couple that you know in your life and that's what we were in everyone's eyes. That's why this is completely unbelievable to everyone around me. I thank you for all your support.