this used to be a problem with me too. and anytime i would bring it up the response i got was "just because i think shes good looking doesnt mean i think shes better looking than you". so then I started thinking about how, yeah I think Ryan Gosling is damn hot....but that doesnt mean he's better looking to me than my boyfriend.

think about what makes u attracted to your husband. its not just his looks. its his personality. so even though he might not be as physically attractive as someone else, youre still way more attracted to him than you are to whoever else. does that make sense?

i think it helps if you think to yourself that you also find famous men attractive but are still more attracted to your husband. cause then you might understand how he feels. i dont think saying someone looks "good for her age" is a shot at you at all.

if it makes u feel any better, one time i was talking to my ex and we were talking about olympic softball. he goes "yeah, you know, the smokin hot chick..." and i just stood there and looked at him like "did you seriously just say that to me?" lol.

behaviors like that are hard to change, especially if they dont think theyre doing anything wrong. and chances are, no matter how much you tell him it hurts, he still wont think hes doing anything wrong. so the easiest route would probably be to work on not letting it bother you. also, positive self-talk works very well in this dept. im one of those people that i look in the mirror and say "god im so gross!" so instead I have to pretty much force myself to pick out one good thing about myself and compliment myself on it. and not hearing myself say "god im gross" everyday has helped me feel much better. i feel way more attractive now than i did even a couple months ago.

hope this helps and good luck