I went through this with my husband and basically it came down to him saying what he thought about attractive females out load as a means not to feel guilty about the thoughts he may have had when he looked at them.... his way of being him self (a male drawn to beauty) without having to be less of a husband/lover to me (his wife).

Time has past and I have grown... and now it really doesn't bother me all that much - and heck I even look and speak out load on occasions about attractive men.

((( HUGS ))) for your pain...