Respectfully, I was Graced to have been part of four new souls. I am forever gratefull and better for it.

Not meant too Tishie..there are no instruction sheets for us when we become parents. Most we know we learned from our position as a child being parented. Most of us who were trained via corporal punishment,,,use it a tool ourselves to a greater or lesser degree. Just like smokers breed smokers...

But reasoning with a one year old? Why not? We sing to them and even read to them while in the womb. What is often lacking when instituting a brash response to behavior is patience. We expect immediate results and act accordingly. It is also a wonderfull venting mechanism for our own frustration and anger.

Today I sleep on everything. If the situation doesn't require a 911 response then I can give it some time. Time, I have found is a wonderfull solution to many problems from an ache in the foot to one in the heart...and to finding solutions to complicated issues. I'm not perfect by any means and recognise that. My first thought is often wrong,,my second one a bit better,,but given some time to think and talk to advisors,,I can get close. Never right on....but close.

Someone earlier mentioned that no one will ever convince anyone that spanking vs non spanking is the answer. Or the inverse. They were right. I'm not making an arguement here,,just expressing the experience of one single man who has made his own personal stand against violence. I abhor it. It always hurts.

With respect,

Lenny