Looks like I am the only "shouter" here. I did not say it was the best way. Nor do I think it is good. Guess I am/was more of a nurturer and failed miserably in the discipline department. What can I say other than I did what I thought was right. I am far from perfect and actually my kids aren't pefect either. Guess one thing I can say would be that my son's would not hesitate to "shout" I love you mom, across a crouded room or busy mall or in front of anyone.. They know they are loved.

Oo and the throwing things.. umm AJ's laughs to this day the time I tossed those oranges at him. oo and the food fights, which umm I started.. He was around l4 and was in this nasty mood. We were sitting on the deck and I dumped my ice water over his head. He looked at me and dumped his soda over my head. And the battle began. Ketchup, mustard, mayo was a flying.. Not to forget the splattered eggs on heads. We started laughing soooooo hard.. By the time the food battle ended we were both in great moods.. Esp when the hose came out to clean up.

I dunno.. I am a mom. Made mistakes. Did some right things. I tried. As for my parenting skills, I am sure they are questionable. Even I question them. Just for me... the smacking and hitting wasn't something I felt right doing, so I did not do it. I don't judge those who do spank their children. But I will stand up and "shout" should I ever see or hear of a child being mistreated/abused....