How do you get over the pain and hurt of your brother not liking you? My brother is upset because I have been hospitalized alot and he has been the one to take care of everything, he said he cant handle my mood swings, and he told me that I have borderline personality disorder (my brother isnt a doctor), and he said among other things that he needs his distance from me, he doesnt miss me, and that i have messed up the last 12 years of his life.