Thanks everyone, for the replies. Guess that I just needed to vent a bit...or a lot

It does often feel like I'm walking on eggshells, and that the "rules" are different for me work & social wise, even though that idea seems to greatly offend others in my office. The "closing the door to talk to the new hire" really bothered me, since I can verify that there was no supervisor in there with them. It just grates on me that they're always talking about communication and the team effort, and then pull crap like this.

As I've said before, though, even with all of this I would never call my co-workers bad people. I've seen a lot of good in them, and they certainly do work and help out. I just wish there was some way of getting over this communication barrier we seem to have, something that we can't seem to solve even with repeated meetings and talks--if I remind someone of something too much, I'm a taskmaster; if I don't, I'm being shady, self-centered, and not seeing all of us as a team. I know that you can't please everyone all the time, but in my line of work it's needed...and I don't know how the heck to please them.

Almost everyone else in that office gets along well, and seems to communicate well. Even when I observe them, I can't figure out what they're doing right and what I'm apparently doing wrong. I can organize a calendar, create a report, and schedule an event with ease...but the social side of things is eluding me.