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Jan 30, 2009, 12:46 AM
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Member Since: Jul 2007
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Quote:
Originally Posted by AAAAA
If your partner was cheating on you, would you rather them tell you or never know?
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I voted * I don't know *.
Reason being ,,,, IMO ,, it depends on more than just one or two >> cut ~n~ dry factors .
1.] ... the peeps age .
2.] ... how long they been a couple .
3.] ... whether living together or married .
Just because the toilet lid is left up ,, or cap not put back on toothpaste tube ,,, rarely a reason to * step out * .
Before wanting to be a couple ,, ya have to remember >> yous found each other ... So there was most likely some searching and exploring happening already .
[ point 1 & 2 from above ]
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Now put # 3 into place ,, without marriage ,, at that point IMO >> I would have to also think about # 1 & #2 again .
Now a days ,, So many rarely get it right the first time ,,,,, so the communication structure must be in place >> and yas best have tough skin ,, if you are willing to * let it go , and see if it returns * .
Moving on ; input marriage and children , and shared obligations ........ At this stage of a relationship ,, again , IMO , this is when the *cheating* can happen due to life choices mentality ,, and not sure if done the right thing .
People do not only get cold feet before the " I do s' " .
All in all ,, infidelity is not an absolute * wake - up * call .
Just the [ sometimes ] culturally excepted thing ,, lack of communication thing ,, and maybe >> Just growing apart . Doesn't always mean a person/s/ have failed .
If the Heart was touched ,, and the reason to wish to be together in the beginning was strong ?,,,,Then ,, there is always a better chance to reconcile >> and find proper outlets >> without feelings being tromped all over .
And who has ever found , commitment , and day to day life >>> E A S Y ... ?
WMD . :/ .
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