(((Taonuviel)))

I've read through your thread, and I wonder if you've ever heard of Asperger's Syndrome? It is essentially high-functioning autism. Often people with AS are very intelligent, well-written, but they have difficulty with face-to-face communication. It can be difficult to read people's facial cues, and read between the lines of what they are saying.

The common complaint for people with AS is anxiety, another thing you mentioned.

I don't know if this fits for you or not, but I thought I'd throw it out there in case it might help. It sounds like you're doing a great job, and being very proactive.