i know you want an answer faith, but to be honest, i'm not sure what the right answer would be....that's a pretty scary subject.

i'm not sure how comfortalbe i am even replying to it...i just want to offer comfort. does anyone else know about this? or just this posting?

there's always away out......and i really hope u find it, but i have nothing to offer you but comfort.

one thing tho...you aren't doing nething to make him feel that way....i really doubt any of this if your fault!!!!! so please don't think that it is.....

the only suggestion i CAN give is maybe research privatley similiar situations...either on the web, or whatever, to see what other victims in your circumstance did.....

i really hope this helps you somewhat, faith?

"Nothing makes us so lonely as our secrets."
-Paul Tournier

"While one person hesitates because he feels inferior, the other is busy making mistakes and becoming superior."
-Henry C. Link