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Old Jan 31, 2009, 05:47 AM
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I am not sure if this is the place to do this. I did a search and I haven't seen anyone do what I am going to do/say.

Ok, here's my story...

I have been married to my wife for 11 years. I love her deeply, my world revolves around her and our children. Up until Monday, this week, I thought everything was ok (ignorance is bliss?). I knew we were having a few problems, and just thought we needed to talk. During the talk she spit out I am not in love with you, I don't need you, this is over and there's nothing you can do about it.

I came to find out, I had mad a few huge mistakes, I was too controlling, but didn't know I was doing it. I have anger issuses, which I am now taking under control and seeing a therapist for (started before she mentioned this, that she hated my anger outbursts).

My problem is this, I love her more than anything, I want her to be ok. She is seeing a therapist for her PTSD. This is the third time we have gone through something like this, she never actually said she wasn't in love with me anymore, but it was out there, hanging in the air. We have always worked through it, and I know we can now. We have talked, and she admitted that what she said was spur of the moment, anger talking, and really what she feels, but she's still not "In Love" with me, but that over time yes, everything will be ok. I know this is a HUGE step, but I am walking on egg shells, doing all I can to make sure she's ok with what I am doing.

Has anyone else had a loved one they have delt with that has done something similar to this? How did you handle it? My wife is my world, my heart and my soul belong to her, and I want to help her get the best help for her PTSD and to make her trust in me that no matter what happens, I am here for her.

Thank you in advance for any help or suggestions.