For me it was the other way around, I was the wife saying I dont love you any more there is nothing you can say or do now so please leave, I had told him in family therapy before that he needs to change or I will leave him and he said he would change and he tried for a few months then fell back to his old ways, this went on for years till in the end I left as no matter what I said he wouldnt leave he kept saying things like I will make you love me again I will change I am sorry and the crying just got on my nerves I had seen it all before.

As he wouldnt leave the home I had to go with five children in tow just so I could get rid of him.

He is now seven years later living a misrable exsistance in a filfy house which he never cleans and does repairs on and its falling about his ears, the older children are disgusted with him he is living with depression the same as he gave me for years.

Do I feel sorry for him ? No he asked for it all and he can rot for all I cared. He killed any love I had for him by not changing and just behaving the way he wanted to which was upsetting for me.