I wanted to extend my sympathies to you...to hear your wife was not in love with you, that must have been heartbreaking

And it sounds like you ALREADY WERE trying to attack the underlying issues..

And you are both getting help..

And you truly, truly, love her

And I am sure you love your kids..

What a difficult situation to find yourself in..

Can you both go to counseling together, not just separately?

It is going to take work, but I believe 'this marriage can be saved..'