they treaten often and only came twice. but i never when they might again. They find me make sure they let me know that they know where I'm at and use it to scare the h*ll out of me. And I hate to say it works. I've been fortunate to have remarried to a wonderful amn who thinks he can protect me but of course he can't be around 24/7. So my T says that I'll have to be ready all my life for one of them to show, so I make a plan everywhere I go, I vary my routes (as much as possible), and keep a close eye one my kids constantly. The school knows about thier dad after he threatened to come take them. I have an protection order that never expires and should be good thourgh out the US. So I basically have done everything locially I can do to make myself and my children as safe as I can. The fear gets better at times, but I honestly think if I let it go then I'm doomed to be caught off guard.