Pat.

No, I didn't start this one before. This one is specifically asking how to set boundaries. The other one was just venting.

I'm put out as much by the imposition on my time as anything. It's usually at the last minute with a sugary "This won't interrupt your schedule, will it?" knowing full well that it will.

I have NO clue how to put my foot down and keep it there. I HAVE told him to send along money and he refuses. So, I have to start saying no to his requests for my time, even though it's going to be hell wondering how the kids are being treated by one of his drinking buddies.

No matter how uncomfortable it is, it's so much easier to be his doormat than a salivating pit pull to keep him at a safe distance from my head and my checkbook.