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nonightowl · Feb 01, 2009, 12:51 PM

Seeker/fellow "Dracula" fan (LOL)

Here's my two cents on Internet dating, EHarmony or otherwise.

I agree with all of the posters. But I did meet my guy on www.match.com. I hear they've recently started another site for people new to online dating, called I think, www.downtoearth.com.

Anyway, I've heard a lot of horror stories, but some success stories too. My advice would be to take it with a grain of salt, not take it too seriously, but don't be too cynical either.

I know that is hard, but there are sincere men on there, as well as women, but they are harder to find, just like IRL.

You don't have to be online to meet jerks or weirdoes. I've met plenty of jerks without any help from the Internet, and guys can be "not what they seem" in person as well as online.

When I joined Match, I did hear from a few weirdoes, a lot of much older men, and a couple of guys that seemed okay but they just stopped writing. The attention span of people is really short, just like on this site and others. My guy was the only one who seemed sincere, and we had/have a lot in common. That's what did it, I think. We had a great friendship/correspondence before we even met, and a good friendship is the good base for a romantic relationship, I think.

I heard that EHarmony chooses the matches for you, whereas Match will let you do searches on your own. The commercials DO make it look like everyone will end up like that, but all commercials (regardless of what they are advertising) show only the good...not the bad and the ugly. LOL

Actually, my guy tried to join EHarmony before Match, but they rejected him based on his answers to their VERY lengthy questionnaire. But some of the choices in the multiple choice format did not apply to him, but he could not say "None of the above". You had to pick something. I guess it's a good thing that EHarmony did not work for him, cause I would not have met him then.

I joined Match not expecting it to go anywhere, and I initially picked it because it was free whereas, at that time, EHarmony was charging for the profile posting. I liked the idea of mapping out my "criteria", and it was the first time ever that I tried online dating.

It has its advantages...I mean can you just walk up to someone you find attractive and strike up a conversation? I can't, but starting with e-mails can be a lot easier...and revealing.

Good luck with whatever you do...online or traditional.