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Feb 01, 2009, 01:00 PM
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Desert Kitty hates titles
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Member Since: Jul 2008
Location: TARDIS
Posts: 12,684
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Originally Posted by myoasis89
For all the Married people...I know I keep asking about questions about being in relationships...and I know it annoys people..but I'm curious and I guess insecure about lots of things to do with relationships. How do you know the guy you are with loves you. My bf says he shows loving by doing things for me. I know I care for my bf.. but I feel emotionally numb...I've felt this way all my life...I know i care because when i am with him...i am the happiet I've ever been...but when I am at home and not with him...i feel numb...I'm not sure how i feel...when i talk on the phone with him i am excited and sad when he has to hang up....I pray to God he feels the same loving feeling...I know it's dumb to rush things...but I want a future with him...I know I'm only 19...but I'm not sure if he wants that with me...it's been 9 months...when do you start talking about the future together??
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I wonder about this too, Oasis. But since my boyfriend's depression is worse than ever, I can't talk to him about little things, let alone something as serious as if we have a future. I may get in trouble for saying this, but I personally don't have a mood condition, and it's VERY challenging to be in a relationship with someone who does, the good man that he is.
We've been together two years, but I don't know if it's going to work. I guess you don't know that once you DO get married as well. I dunno. I've asked this question of married people, on this site and others, but I'm not getting much feedback or clear cut/black & white answers.
Right now, it feels like we're just drifting like a sailboat in a channel. Is the boat sturdy enough to go out into the ocean, where it's not going to be calm waters all the time? Or is it going back to the docks, where it's safe?
Sorry can't be much help, since I'm kind of in the same place now.
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