Abuse is not good period! Eventually everyone who has been abused in any way has to face it. I was physically, emotionally and verbally abused as a child and up till I was 18. I had to confront it eventually because it just keep interfering with my personal life when I was about 22. When you come to terms with everything, you learn so much on what not to do. If you decide to have kids or if you do already, you know what not to do. I have come to terms with it and have learned from it. Don't get me wrong, it's a shame that anyone should ever have to go through that but I am a firm believer in educating others who have never dealt with abuse especially in the helping professions.