I love my boyfriend. We're really good together. I posted here before because I was a bit concerned about seeing him again when he came to visit me for Christmas break. We're in a long distance relationship, the circumstances of that relationship are exsplained in my first post.

That post can be found on this thread, posted in December.

Well, my boyfriend came, and everything was fine. He did not pressure me at all, things were easy, and wonderful. We spent a month together, where we were together everyday for the whole month, and we worked well together. Things were great.

The problem is, he went back to Mississippi and since then had become a bit... overbearing?

I don't know how to explain it. He would message me every time I got on face book as soon as I got on, the same with im, every single time, every day. When I wasn't online, or left suddenly, he'd sometimes text me asking me where I was. A few times he asked my friends where I was, and what I was doing.

I told him that I didn't like him asking my friends, he said he only did it once. They told me it was more than once.

He told me that he hadn't done it sense I spoke to him about it when I called to confront him earlier today about the constant iming. I told him I it bothered me when he messaged me every time I got online, that he texted me when I wasn't online, that he asked me where I was going and where I had been almost everytime I spoke to him. I told him, it seemed a bit obsessive to me, and I didn't want him to obsess over me.

He tells me things like "I miss you much it hurts" all the time, "I can't wait to be with you again." As though he's constantly focused on me. When I tell him what I've been up to, he says I wish I could have been there with you. No matter what it was I had been doing, the response is always reiterating how much he misses me, loves me, and needs me.

It's sweet, to a point, but I don't know, it makes me feel like I'm the center of his universe and I don't want to be. Is it normal that I don't want to be? Is it that I don't love him enough?

Anyway, today I called him, and informed him that I didn't like not being able to get online without being messaged, I didn't like being texted when I wasn't online, and basically told everything that was bothering me. He said, he messages everyone as soon as they get online, that's just what he does. I told him that it bothered me, I just told him how I felt. He said that's fine, and was very cool about it, and he would stop if it bothered me.

Well then tonight, he posted this note one facebook, where everyone can see it.

"I have a friend that is having a serious issue right now. I just need to get this off my chest.
My friend is a very committed person. His girlfriend is the opposite of that.
She doesn't seem to realize that he is just the way he is.
He knows that he shouldn't let it get to him as much as he does. But it does. He just wishes that she would listen and understand the same way he has been for her. He wishes that she'd understand that he only wants to be a part of her life, and isn't trying to be obsessive in anyway. He just cares so much that it hurts him to know that she doesn't like him just being curious as to what she's been up to and stuff.
He understands that she isn't very good with commitment, and he understands that. It just hurts him when she comes off as though she doesn't care as much for him as he does her.
I know I probably shouldn't be discussing their business in a public forum, but I tried to keep it as impartial as possible. The people involved will know who they are, that's it. I just wanted to let him know it's bothering me and that this song is for him about he feels.

Blink 182 - I'm Lost Without You

I swear that I can go on forever again
Please let me know that my one bad day will end
I will go down as your lover, your friend
Give me your lips and with one kiss we begin

Are you afraid of being alone
Cause I am, I'm lost without you
Are you afraid of leaving tonight
Cause I am, I'm lost without you

I'll leave my room open till sunrise for you
I'll keep my eyes patiently focused on you
Where are you now I can hear footsteps I'm dreaming
And if you will, keep me from waking to believe this

Are you afraid of being alone
Cause I am, I'm lost without you
Are you afraid of leaving tonight
Cause I am, I'm lost without you

Are you afraid of being alone
Cause I am, I'm lost without you
Are you afraid of leaving tonight
Cause I am, I'm lost without you
Are you afraid of being alone
Cause I am, I'm lost without you
Are you afraid of leaving tonight
Cause I am, I'm lost without you

I'm lost without you
I'm lost without you
I'm lost without you
I'm lost without you
I'm lost without you "

It's obvious he's talking about us, but instead of telling me how he feels he posts this. I don't know what to say to him.

To me this feels passive agressive and manipulative, especially when he says things like

"He's a very committed person. My girlfriend is the opposite of that."

" He just cares so much that it hurts him to know that she doesn't like him just being curious as to what she's been up to and stuff."

"It just hurts him when she comes off as though she doesn't care as much for him as he does her"

Now I don't know what to say to him. The fact he posted this note in public bothers me, as does what I read as guilt trips.

On the other hand, I don't mean to hurt him, and if there are issues with my behavior that bother him, I'd like to adress them. Am I the one at fault here? What am I supposed to do.