Thank you, Leslie, for the reply. We all are giving her the benefit of the doubt, because we know what it's like to be called a liar when we're not lying, but we are also trying to protect ourselves so we don't get hurt again and again. Some of our littles have grown so attatched to her and one has witnessed one time when she was physical to one of our other bigs and another time when she said it was one of her alters who was physical with us, and that little does not believe it was another alter of her's, that little said she say her in her eyes not another alter. When we get in an arguement or when she does something she shouldn't be doing to us (such as the physical things she's done) we are told it wasn't her that it was an alter, and then she integrates that alter and when it happens again it's not her it's a different alter. Something is just saying she's not being honest. I don't know. Maybe we are wrong. We know from first hand experience how difficult DID can be and so we continue to give her the benefit of the doubt, and hopefully in the long run we are wrong and she is telling the truth.
Thanks again for the reply.
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Originally Posted by multipixie9
roxy,
i can see how frustrating this person would be, you do not know when and what to trust as it comes out of her mouth. just a thought, a person who does make up things or say them only after they hear of them somewhere else must be pitifully insecure inside. also, this person may have had an abuser who messed with her mind so much that she was never sure of what was and was not truth. i had abusers who demanded conflicting behaviors from me - at the same time!!!! b****s!!!!! it put me into such painful confusion and insecurity and misery. i did not cope by "copycatting" things. i don't remember much at all except learning to do the impossible on a moments notice while not crying and it was sheer hell. sorry if that is too much info.
i guess i am urging you to seek a balance with her if you can, where you give her the benefit of the doubt unless you are absolutely sure she is lying and then maybe gently confront her - sadly all of us broken people are pretty hard on friendships. it is not that we want to, or mean to be difficult, but we are hurt and "hurt people, hurt people"! i hope you can find your way through the maze!
leslie and the pixies
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