NCguy...We've talked about this before. I'm thankful that Prettyjolie posted in this thread here, because if you want to know what a real military wife feels, you should re-read her initial post.
This "wife" of yours is wrecking you. She's talking out of both sides of her mouth to confuse you. I must add, she sounds very immature, probably too immature to be married....to you or anyone.
Patty