oh sweety! She doesn't even know what she's saying. You are reading it the same way I am...she is contradicting herself. Sounds like there was feeling on her part, too, of having to "compete" with a car for your attention--however, if she were confident and comfortable with herself, she would be ok with you having a car you work on (provided you didn't ignore her for it). I am absolutely reading in that she wants to "live" before settling down--which is a little late after marriage. The line about her telling you to date and such sounds an awful lot like she's telling you to do it so she doesn't feel guilty. True, deep down love isn't telling that person, "you go your way and date, I'll go my way and date and travel and live on my own, then we'll meet up in a few years and see if we still love each other." I don't like it one bit.

So you think maybe she told you about going somewhere with one of these guys and you forgot? Really though, is that something you would forget? And even if you did, there's more to it and the one time, there's this whole email that is really showing where she's at.

To me, there's pro's and con's to "experiencing" life before getting married. You can always experience the things that really matter in life together, so if you're in love, you do them together. It sounds so much like she doesn't know who she wants to be and it's a shame that she didn't know that before the wedding.