hey, me too. my T told me in no uncertain terms, "i was to direct the therapy, etc. what i put into it was what i'd get out of it. it was not his place or job, to let me sit back and be passive about things that bothered me. i needed to take ownership of my therapy not the other way around."
well yeah i got mad but then i really thanked him later. he helped me immensely by saying that to me. so it sounds like your T really is a caring T that wants you to benefit from your time slot.
i've had other T's that i'd be paying for that could care less what i did or didnt' say. they were just collecting money. course they'd see me for 2 visits and i'd be gone cause they really weren't interested in helping me if they allowed me to slide through an unfruitful session twice. that is their "job"...to insist we take ownership of our own therapy.