(sitting)

Here's what I learned about phone calls. It's easier to dump stuff outside of session because then we don't really have to face it in-session. I did it many times--unconsciously of course but T forced me to deal with more and more face-to face and it has deepened our relationship, and allowed for him to care for me better and me to know that. I used to call much more than I do now, and when I did, T would often say, "let's talk about that phone call." I didn't realize that what was happening was that he wanted me to bring more INTO session than I was willing to. But now, it is obvious that's what has happened because I have disclosed much more of my intimate feelings recently. It used to be easier for me to talk to him on the phone than it is face to face. But yesterday I was worrying about possible snow and not being able to get to session this week and I realized that I didn't want to have a phone session--that I'd rather SEE him.

Sooooo what am I telling you? I don't know really, but it's worth the risk to say things face to face. Ultimately, it's more real.

Oh, and those paper towels made me laugh! Feel better.