You really do say what I think I've experienced with my wife and other women. What you say is not what you mean (sometimes). Of course it's irritating for us men - in a way, it's lying too.

In a technical world, it's something like going to a car dealership with one model in mind. You say "I want this" and the sales guys start messing with you - how about this feature, maybe you don't need that - you want blue, but how about grey? That's sometimes what a man hears from a woman.

I haven't met too many women who don't use the double-speak, but those who I knew that didn't use it were so much easier for me to talk to. Less "cloudy" and more "clear sailing". They also were people who would not wait to do something - they did it without hesitation. Maybe women who are afraid use double-speak to hide their real feelings of being scared and unable to "just go for it"? Could it be that women who argue more are less secure in themselves and life in general?