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I understand. Dealing with the ex's about everyday issues is hard enough. Then to try to get money out of them. Forget it. They think you owe them. This is a hard process. For you, you have been catering to him for so long that you probably dont really know how to stand up to him the way you should. I think that you shouls see a T about this. I know you said financially you couldnt do it but you can seek services through the county where you live on a sliding fee basis. That's what I do and I think they are doing a good job. Once you can see a therapist and unload all that you have been bottling up inside it's going to be much easier for you to stand up for yourself and tell him what he needs to do.
I know it's difficult. I really do, but your a fighter and you will come out of this OK. I promise. LUV YA!!!!!