I am casually (nonexclusively) seeing an older man. I am turning 21, he is 38. We have been working together for 6 months and our friendship has steadily grown over that time. For most of that time we were both in our own separate relationships, but my ex dumped me in December. It was a really messy situation that sent my life into havoc for awhile, and my older man friend was really supportive and always there to listen and give me advice. I also just feel really comfortable around him and can be myself and have a lot of fun. Anyway, him and his gf just broke up a couple weeks ago (I don't know the details of what happened). I've been wondering if he likes me because he's very flirty with me at work. He tends to be flirty in general, but lately it really seems like he focuses on me: he's always hugging me, giving me little flirty touches etc, and trust me, I would notice if he did to other girls a lot because I'd get a little jealous. Last week he asked me to come over his house and hang out sometime. So I went over tonight, and we had plenty of fun plans... we cooked, played music together, played a board game, and watched a movie. It was a lot of fun, we have a lot of similar interests and we get along well, there's plenty to talk about. But I was a little startled, because he DID swoop in for the kiss, and he said he'd wanted to for awhile. He did ask if it was okay, but only after he went for it. Actually he asked several times throughout the night if it was ok. But yeah, after the first kiss it was just like a regular romantic date. He seems very caring: He's such a gentleman, always asking if I'm comfortable and trying to make me feel better in some way, worrying about if I'm having fun or if there's anything that he should do differently. As the night drew to a close he said he wanted to see me again and asked if it could be tomorrow night. He said he would take me out to get sushi, and he said at work he's not going to be able to resist taking me aside for a minute to kiss me (but we agreed we wouldn't tell anyone). When I left he walked me outside, and when I got in the car he kept looking back like every two seconds to watch me leave.

So... obviously, he wants this continue. And it all seems really good, if it was a guy my age I would feel completely ecstatic that I had found somebody soooo caring, easy to get along with, and enthusiastic about me. But exactly what this is, I'm not exactly sure. Of course older men can sometimes have ill-intentions when approaching younger girls romantically. I guess I just want some outside insight into this situation, because I'm trying to keep my head screwed on properly. Basically, does it seem like this guy is just roping me in with deception and taking an opportunity to sex it up with a pretty young girl, or that perhaps there is some sort of real relationship developing given our friendship and empathetic attitude towards me? He's either a good liar who's taking a huge career risk, or he genuinely cares - the latter of which seems more likely to me, but I'm not sure. Opinions?