Thanks again P7!

I vent a lot to the few friends I have (old ones I keep in touch with on line) and the one I have here (we moved to the UK due to her job, armed forces, almost a year ago, neither of us make friends that easy, me because I am home 99% of the time).

But here you all know what's up and have been very helpful. What I have found out is there are clusters of PTSD and they vary for each individual with it, my wife is this:

Avoidance Symptoms

• Making an effort to avoid thoughts, feelings, or conversations about the traumatic event.
• Making an effort to avoid places or people that remind you of the traumatic event.
• Having a difficult time remembering important parts of the traumatic event.
• A loss of interest in important, once positive, activities.
• Feeling distant from others.
• Experiencing difficulties having positive feelings, such as happiness or love.
• Feeling as though your life may be cut short.

Kinda...see this is where I am confused. The numbness, is that a common thread, as it's not mentioned here. She avoids confrontation to the point that she was willing to risk her marriage...I don't understand that, I don't have too, I know that it's part of her problems, and again, we are working on our marriage.

I also didn't put in here what meds she's on, and a little history. We have been through this exact situation 2 other times, she never said she didn't love me or want/need me. It was there, hanging in the air, but she didn't actually say it. When I met her she was on Elavil, due to her migraines, but Elavil is also an anti-depressant, right? She felt better and took herself off it, and things went wrong, but I didn't wanna see it, didn't want to know it. She finally went back and got more, but again, after some T and feeling better, she took herself off it again, and again, this happens. I asked her again this time if she was taking her Elavil and she said no coz her headaches were gone, and I explained that I saw a correlatoin between our bad times and her being off it. She was put on Welbutrin, which I think worked for a while, but I don't see it doing her any good now, and I know it takes a while to get back on track when retaking/starting a drug, so I hope my pseudo pscyholgy helps. I didn't push her, I just said I think you should go back on it for your headaches and maybe it'll help with what's going on, put it in question form, and she went and got them and has been taking them.

I don't like her T tho, he seems to be treating the sympotoms and not making her go through the steps of why, and how do we fix your problems that have stemmed from the root problem. I talked to her about that last night as well and she agreed, he's not doing what we would expect and if he doesn't start getting to the root next week, she will seek out a new T.

Thanks again guys, it's really nice to have support and be able to say all this, makes me feel better. I will have trust issues with her coming home and saying it all over again, she will have trust issues with me and maybe I might snap and yell, or try to control her again...but I vowed, I am a man of my word, she is worth it and so is our marriage. Once she lets you in wow, she's the most wonderful person I have ever known, beautiful inside and out...and inside is a little more important to me, a lot actually hehe. I am rambling...thanks again guys!