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speaking of whingeing, my mouth hurts badly even though i took a larger than prescribed dose of pain pill. it triggers my issues to be left in pain when the doctor could have given me a very small amount of good pain killer. ok fussing over.... i think
what luce said does make sense to me. learning is a process and so is healing and most important events of life. things travel through my brain before they get to the place where i understand them correctly and can begin to attempt to apply them. failure is just part of the process and each attempt brings me closer to the place where i can do what i know.
i will be so glad to arrive at a place where i can be genuinely kind to myself the way i most often treat others - (online it is easier than in real life). scolding, shaming, denigrating, deprecating, blah, blah all those negative ways i try to force myself into higher patterns of behavior do not work well and produce success. the Bible talks about "speaking the truth in love". genuine growth of a healthy sort is achieved by teaching in positive ways. those who abused me taught me and i performed like pavlov's dog - but their lessons tore me down and pushed me farther from the light. guess i'm running on too long here.
they used to say, "you get more flies with honey than vinegar" (they never said why you might want the flies =) the truth is that we learn best in kind teaching. i hope you have a good day.
leslie and her pixies
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